This was really fantastic and completely relatable. When my Dad was declining with dementia, I had to deal with that exact same log in screen many times. Luckily he was only 10 minutes away and I could resolve the problem more easily. Some of my best memories of my Dad are the time I spent with him during his final 2-3 years: all the challenges of helping him with trivial tasks, listening to his delusional stories, being disowned several times, and his frustrations about losing his independence. Great story! And always happy to commiserate if that helps. 🙂
Oh Heidi, thank you for sharing this. I'm sorry you are going through this! As always, I'm awed by your humility, smarts, and empathy. Please keep writing and sharing your humanity. Sending love to you and your dad.
Loved this essay. It came this weekend when my son’s car was stolen in Vegas. It is a huge setback for him. He can’t afford a higher interest rate. Since car prices went up he can’t afford a similar car. That car was his only asset, his baby, and his ticket to independence. He feels incredibly violated and it is weighing his whole life down and I can’t help him or get his car back. I’m afraid he is going to sink in an emotional hole. The essay helped. It’s a question of acceptance of what is.
Keep storytelling its balm for my soul
This was really fantastic and completely relatable. When my Dad was declining with dementia, I had to deal with that exact same log in screen many times. Luckily he was only 10 minutes away and I could resolve the problem more easily. Some of my best memories of my Dad are the time I spent with him during his final 2-3 years: all the challenges of helping him with trivial tasks, listening to his delusional stories, being disowned several times, and his frustrations about losing his independence. Great story! And always happy to commiserate if that helps. 🙂
Oh Heidi, thank you for sharing this. I'm sorry you are going through this! As always, I'm awed by your humility, smarts, and empathy. Please keep writing and sharing your humanity. Sending love to you and your dad.
I’m so sorry your family is going through that it’s so very hard on everyone. You’re a great daughter and an amazing human. Hang in there
Loved this essay. It came this weekend when my son’s car was stolen in Vegas. It is a huge setback for him. He can’t afford a higher interest rate. Since car prices went up he can’t afford a similar car. That car was his only asset, his baby, and his ticket to independence. He feels incredibly violated and it is weighing his whole life down and I can’t help him or get his car back. I’m afraid he is going to sink in an emotional hole. The essay helped. It’s a question of acceptance of what is.
Thank you for putting into words what is in my own heart ❤️
Incredible watercolor by your dad. Thanks for another excellent post.
Gorgeous piece - thank you 🙏